“Ask Tim” is part of a series we created to combine cognitive therapy and sleep. We teamed up with Tim Grimwade, our brand ambassador and a Cognitive Behaviour Hypnotherapist based in London, to bring us great teachings on how we can train our minds to help us live and sleep better.
Tim Grimwade is a Cognitive Behaviour Hypnotherapist based in Central London who helps people deal with anxiety, sleep issues, phobias, addictions and other seemingly-involuntary actions. With a former career in banking, Tim understands the impact of anxiety and busyness our society faces. In search for life fulfilment he bravely left his established and comfortable job position to embark on a journey to help hundreds of busy Londoners to change bad behaviours and to find happiness. He has a Diploma in Cognitive-Behavioural Hypnotherapy, accredited by the National Council for Hypnotherapy, the General Hypnotherapy Register, the Register for Evidence-Based Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy and approved by the British Psychological Society. His methods are long-established, peer-reviewed interventions and are aligned with the conclusions of, among others, the British Psychological Society, the British Medical Association and the American Medical Association.Tim’s approach to hypnotherapy is that we all have a hidden, undiscovered ability to choose so many of the things that we assume are beyond our control.
Today we asked Tim how to deal with some challenges when the night comes:
When facing lack of focus in life and worries come at night what can we do to make our lives better?
Why do we worry? What is its function or value? Life is punctuated with a series of challenges or problems of varying size, importance and solubility. We are naturally better able to overcome or solve some rather than others. Our attempts to problem-solve might be pro-active, wise and successful or ill-considered, foolish and doomed. Luckily, problem-solving can be taught, learned and mastered. We can learn, and resolve, to take a new, much more constructive approach to the everyday obstacles and challenges of our lives. We can become decisive, motivated and fearless in the face of daunting challenges. Worry is what we do when we do not yet possess such skills. The poorer the problem-solving skills, the greater the depth and wider the range of worries. We worry at night when we failed to tackle our problems in the day.
When we have learned how to problem-solve, we can do so – slowly, one thing at a time but, with practice, more rapidly and eventually instinctively. We begin to perceive them no longer as problems, but challenges to be met and overcome – confident in the expectation that we can succeed in all situations. In this habit, worry cannot trouble us.